by Coach Tina | Jan 13, 2025 | Empowerment, Gratitude, Growth, Healing
We’ve all heard the saying, “Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.” While it might seem like sound advice on the surface, I’m here to challenge that notion and offer a different perspective on how to truly protect your peace.
There is a cost associated with being too close to negativity!
The idea of keeping your enemies close, while it appears to offer a strategic advantage, and we are all about strategy around here; but it can have a significant impact on your emotional well-being. 
Those negative vibes your enemy releases can cause mental drain. Constantly engaging with negativity can drain your mental energy, leaving you feeling distracted, overwhelmed, and disconnected from your true purpose. It can also interrupt your focus. Instead of focusing on building your own success, you might find yourself preoccupied with monitoring the moves of your perceived enemies. Who has time for that?
I lean towards divine justice over forcing anything!
The scripture that states “God will prepare a table before your enemies” is often misinterpreted. This doesn’t imply you should actively seek out or maintain close relationships with those who oppose you. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. In my opinion this verse is a reminder that your success will unfold naturally, without the need to constantly engage with those who wish to see you fail. It also reminds me that God prepares the table – not us. And He prepares it in His timing! When we focus on God’s timing and his intentions, we allow success to unfold organically. You are not required to force anything.
It’s time to focus on positive surroundings!
Why expend precious energy nurturing negative bonds when you could be cultivating relationships that truly uplift you? Surrounding yourself with genuine supporters who celebrate your victories and encourage your dreams fosters a positive and empowering environment. The influence of supportive relationships fuels your growth and paves the way for authentic success.
Girlfriend, it’s time to reclaim your power!
In a world that often pressures us to conform and please everyone, it’s crucial to prioritize nurturing relationships that empower rather than those that drain. It’s time to release the toxic ties that you have to toxic people. This will require courage. If someone is constantly bringing negativity into your life, release them. You don’t owe them anything. Build your own empire. channel the energy you reclaim from letting go of those negative Nancys and pursue your dreams with unwavering confidence. As you reclaim your power, you will find that you really weren’t missing anything anyway.
Guarding your peace is an act of self-love and empowerment. By prioritizing positive relationships and releasing toxic ties, you create space for authentic success to bloom. Remember, you do not need to keep your enemies close to succeed. Trust in your own journey and let your light shine brightly. You are the CEO of your life. It’s okay to demote and terminate those that are not helping you achieve your goals and promote those that are.
I hope this encourages you to pursue success instead of paying attention to where your enemies are or what they are doing. That’s God’s problem not yours.
Until Next Time,
by Coach Tina | Feb 21, 2024 | Empowerment, Encouragement, Growth
In a world where women of color often feel marginalized and mentally unsafe in their professional environments, it’s time to acknowledge the resilience and creativity that they bring to the table. Despite facing adversity and burnout, women continue to excel in their careers while juggling multiple roles and responsibilities. Whether is leading a team of ambitious individuals, showing up as a loving spouse, helping navigate the lives of children, or building long-lasting friendships; women wear a lot of hats!
As a certified peer support specialist and master life coach, I’ve witnessed firsthand the struggles that many women face in their pursuit of professional success and personal fulfillment. It’s common for my clients to excel in their professions but lack confidence in their personal endeavors, using work as a coping mechanism for unfulfilled relationships or traumatic experiences. A recent article I read, reported over 40% of women that quit their job in 2023, quoted feeling mentally unsafe in their work environment and a feeling of burn out. 
But what if I told you that the burnout you’re experiencing isn’t solely from your overwhelming to-do list, but rather from the lack of fulfillment in your actions and their outcomes? Women are natural nurturers and multipliers, thriving when they can see tangible results and make a meaningful impact. Give a woman a house; she will build you a home. Give a woman a seed, she will produce a life. Give a woman an opportunity; she will build an empire. There is no stopping a determined woman. Unfortunately the same tenacity used to grow is the same energy that lead many women down the road of burn out and unfulfillment.
The key to overcoming burnout lies in aligning your actions with your desire for impact. When you feel energized and fulfilled in your leadership role, it’s because you can see the positive outcomes of your efforts. However, when your time feels wasted or your efforts go unrecognized, it’s easy to spiral into fatigue and depression, which are two of the most common symptoms of burn out.
Instead of resigning yourself to burnout, ask yourself if you’re truly making an impact in your current endeavors. If not, it’s time to pivot and find ways to create space for meaningful contributions. Whether it’s taking on a new project at work, starting a home improvement endeavor, or nurturing new friendships, prioritize actions that allow you to make a difference and nurture your desire to multiply and enhance what’s around you. You are not a tree, you are not obligated to stay planted anywhere you no longer want to be.
Remember, you are the CEO of your own life, with the power to demote, promote, or terminate anything that no longer serves you. I’m here to help you navigate the complexities of your professional and personal life, empowering you to lead with authenticity and live a strategically fulfilled lifestyle. Stop waiting to be invited to the table and build your own. Nothing is stopping you but you and your limiting beliefs. Every day offers a different opportunity, it’s up to you to position yourself to capitalize on it.
If you’re ready to break free from the cycle of burnout and reclaim your sense of purpose, I invite you to follow my blog and tune into the BossUP Podcast for ongoing support and guidance. Together, let’s unlock your potential and embrace the CEO mindset that will propel you toward success and fulfillment.
Until Next Time,
by Coach Tina | Dec 5, 2023 | Empowerment, Encouragement, Focus, Gratitude, Growth
Hey Girl Hey! It’s time to transform your life from chaotic to harmonious. Grab you a cup of coffee or wine depending on when you are reading this post and let’s dive into creating some morning and evening routines. These routines will help you conquer your day and become the ultimate CEO of your life.
Why Routines Matter:
In the grand symphony of life, routines are the maestros that orchestrate harmony. For Boss CEOs like you, a meticulously crafted routine is not just a to-do list; it’s a roadmap to success. It’s about mastering your day, reclaiming your time, and propelling yourself toward greatness.
CEO Mindset in Every Move:
Ever wondered why the most successful CEOs seem to have it all together? It’s not magic; it’s a mindset. Embrace the CEO within you, making intentional decisions, prioritizing tasks, and setting the tone for success. Your life is your business, and you’re the Boss – act like it!
Mindset is everything. If you believe you can, you will. If you believe you can’t, you won’t! Just that simple. The moment you say you cannot do something is the moment your mind begins to think of all the reasons why it cannot happen. But as soon as you get “permission”, you begin to look for ways to make sure it happens. Now is the time to give yourself permission. You don’t need anyone’s permission to live our life however you want to!
Mastering Your Morning:
I will be the first to say, establishing a morning routine was hard. Not because I’m not a morning person, but because prior to creating my routine, I would get distracted by all the “things” that needed my attention. It became overwhelming and I ended up doing NOTHING. So I changed that! Now I kickstart my morning by taking time for ME!
My day now starts with a purpose, which looks like this. I use the first hour of my morning to love myself. I start with a prayer asking God to help me be an example of Him today. I make my bed – assuring I accomplish at least one task for the day. I blast my music to set the tone for how I want my day to go. Right now, it’s Christmas music other days it may be gospel or even some upbeat hip hop. I’ve learned music fuels my soul and some days my soul needs a little Tamela Mann and other days it needs Tupac! I grab a cup of tea and journal about whatever I woke up with on my mind. Maybe it was a dream. Maybe it was a strategy I want to create. Maybe it’s a scripture or quote. I’ve learned to get that out first or it will distract me all day. The final step in my morning routine is to pull out my brain dump from the night before (you will see this in a moment). I look at the two things at the top of my list and create a visual image of those things being completed. I make a mental note of how I will feel once they are complete which sets my mindset and fuels my why. Now that I am aware of my purpose for the day, I turn my thoughts back to ME repeating one of two mantras Today, I am the CEO of my life. I will conquer it like the boss I am. OR I don’t beg, I don’t chase. I attract. What’s created for me will find me effortlessly. Determined to move forward with a BOSS mindset, I move forward with what I planned to accomplish for the day.
Empowered Evenings
Before I leave my office for the evening (I work from home), I take a deep breath, signifying the end of my day. It’s time to reset. It’s time to appreciate the things I accomplished for the day regardless of how big or how small. I’ve learned to be appreciative of the efforts I made because there was a time when I would have laid in my bed and cried all day. I ask myself a few questions: What did I learn today? What did I conquer today? What could I have done better? Then I make a conscious decision to do better tomorrow. This is the brain dump I talked about earlier. I ask myself the following questions: Was there anything I wish I had accomplished, and I didn’t? Were there things on my to do list that I didn’t even consider tackling? Do those things need to be removed from my list? Because clearly, they may not be as important as I thought they were! Then I write down two things I want to complete the next day. These are the items that I use to create a mindset of purpose the next morning. Remember the CEO mindset does not rest; it strategizes for tomorrow’s victories.
Lastly before I turn in for the night, I do a quick check in. I ask myself two simple questions: Did I make myself proud? Did I stay true to my purpose? If I answered yes to those questions, I’m good. If I say NO, I realize there is probably a boundary I need to set. Maybe it’s from within. Maybe it’s setting a boundary for someone or something that needs to be demoted or terminated from my life. I, then, pray and ask God to give me courage and strength to not only set that boundary but to implement that boundary.
CEOs are not afraid to set boundaries. It is not about being rigid; it’s about respecting your time and energy. Learn to say ‘No’ when needed, delegate like a pro, and protect the CEO asset- you!
Remember one of the pillars in the BossUP program is being strategic! Strategy is your secret weapon to conquering challenges and unlocking your full potential. This powerhouse program is designed for women like you – those making an impact in their community and in the lives of those they love. It’s not just a program; it’s your roadmap to CEO-level decision-making.
You’re not just navigating life; you’re orchestrating it. Through empowering routines, a CEO mindset, and the BossUp program, you’re claiming your place at the helm. Morning routines for women are essential in assuring an empowered life. Ending your day with an empowering evening routine creates space for you to thrive and step away from the chaos. Routines help to create a CEO life management system. Share the wisdom, subscribe for more BossUp insights, and remember – you’re the CEO of your life.
Until next time, keep BossingUp!
by Coach Tina | Feb 28, 2023 | Empowerment, Encouragement, purpose
With so many coaches and consultants popping up, it is hard to determine the right fit for you. I often tell my clients you want to find a coach or consultant that you can connect with. One that will provide you with a challenge but also understand your apprehensions.
Any time you take on a new endeavor or make a choice to change something in your life, there is usually some apprehensions or fear. I believe it doesn’t scare you a little bit, you are playing to small and need to step out of your comfort zone.
That brings me to the 5 things I love doing for my clients.
- Encouraging them to jump! The only way to learn to fly is by jumping into the sky. You must be willing to break free from your comfort zone and take a leap. Because I am clearly aware of how fear can paralyze you, I do have empathy BUT because of that same observation, I know the importance of the push.
- Giving them permission to draw outside of the lines! We were all taught to play by the rules and color inside the lines. But what has that got you? A life that is anything but daring. Women are daring. We’re risk takers. Ask any woman that have brought life into this world or have navigated the world of dating. Those are risk on a whole different level. But most of our lives have been about taking risk that benefit someone else. Well, my philosophy is you can be selfish and draw outside the lines and create new lines if necessary.
- Changing their mindset! There is NO such thing as failure. You either do it or learn what don’t work. I love helping my clients embrace the idea they can start over as many times as necessary to accomplish their goals and it does not make them failure. It strengthens their trust in themselves and the environment they create.
- Releasing the BOSS! In my opinion, EVERY woman is a BOSS. Maybe she hasn’t been given permission to show up as the BOSS in her own life, but she is a BOSS none the less. I help her package herself as her most valued product and present it to the audience of her choosing.
- Providing structure in the mist of chaos. Life is complicated. If you are juggling professional and personal life, you have your hands full. I provide structure to madness and help them create systems that streamline life and bring harmony to the chaos. It’s never going to be perfect but it can be manageable.
I hope this helps you to see why finding the right coach or consultant is key. If you are struggling with whether you need to hire a coach or a consultant, please read this blog where I explain the difference. Remember this is your life. Everything you need is inside of you, maybe having the right helper can empower you to release it.
If you would like to discuss this topic further or work with me, please contact me at info@tinabaileyonline.comntil
Until Next Time,
by Coach Tina | Jan 18, 2023 | Empowerment, Encouragement, Focus, purpose
Then the LORD said to me, “Write the vision and make it plain. So those that read it can run “. Habakkuk 2:2
Until a few years ago, I used the surfaced version of that scripture WRITE THE VISION, MAKE IT PLAIN but as I began to teach others to craft their own vision, I noticed the latter part, SO THOSE THAT READ IT CAN RUN and something in my soul began to stir.
- Your vision must inspire.
- Your vision must motivate others to want to do more.
- Your vision must be something others want to be a part of.
- Your vision must be intentional with an intended purpose.
- Your vision must speak to the heart of a person.
- Your vision must speak to your heart.
- Your vision must make people want to RUN and tell someone else.
When I looked at the requirements of what a vision must do, what I had did not measure up. I went back to the drawing board. Now my vision speaks to me and hopefully to others.
My vision is a space where every excuse is met with a solution, where every obstacle becomes a triumph, where every dream becomes a reality and where every woman walks unapologetically in her calling.
Sounds massive and even impossible. But God told me “Plainly write the vision so others will help you accomplish it”. And He has not fallen back on His promise. I’m so thankful for those that support the vision and continue to make it a reality.
Tina Bailey Online is composed of TWO main parts.
BuildHER Collaboration, a nonprofit providing education, resources and training that support survivors of domestic abuse and sexual trauma. We offer programs designed to help survivors build a NEW foundation, provide a space where women can be part of a sisterhood, and provide training to the community to help them become better advocates for victims.
Tina Bailey Consulting & Coaching is a where the magic happens. This is where the over 25 years of nonprofit work, 15 years of project management, 10 years of coaching and my love for creating, comes together and destroys the excuses and obstacles that keep people stuck in situations that destroy them. This is where I live out my own dreams and keep myself from falling back on the floor. (If you don’t know what I’m referring to go back and read the blog right before this one) This is where all “the things” reside. The courses, the podcast, the books, the programs, the trainings, the workshops, the boot camps, the masterminds. This is the resources. This is the how. The nonprofit is the why!
I don’t have all the answers required to fulfill the vision. It’s too big. But in the words of Iyanla Vanzant, if your dream don’t scare you and make you pee just a little bit, it’s too small. You see, I depend on God and the people He place in my life to make the vision a reality. I also depend on all the lessons I’ve learned over the years to keep the vision plain so others can share it and I can satisfy my promise to God.
Your gift is His gift to you; what you do with it, is your gift to Him.
Write your vision, make it crystal clear and watch others take it and run.
Until Next Time,
by Coach Tina | Jan 6, 2023 | Empowerment, Encouragement, Growth
I recently facilitated a class in the BOSS UP Society. We discussed the four pillars of being a BOSS. The first pillar is BOLD. As a BOSS, you must make bold choices and take bold risk to achieve the goals you’ve set for yourself and your business. Being timid and unsure of yourself can cost you money, clients, and time. Although opportunity is frequent, the window of execution is small. You don’t have a lot of time to decide on how to move forward when building your empire. Waiting too long could cost you a major contract or client. Any sales or marketing course will tell you must strike while the fire is hot. People change their minds quickly if you don’t. It’s very similar in life. If you wait too long, you lose momentum and confidence in your own abilities. You can also talk yourself out of going after the things you desire.
When I asked the group to look at the list of characteristics and choose one area, they need to show more boldness, it amazed me that many of the ladies stated they struggled with “celebrating their accomplishments”. Bold women celebrate their accomplishments!
How often do you take the time to celebrate your accomplishments? 
Probably not often! We tend to dwell on our challenges instead of our successes. We often look at what we don’t have instead of what we do have. We penalize ourselves for what we didn’t accomplish instead of rewarding what we did accomplish.
Think about your highly coveted to-do list. If feels good to cross an item off as completed but after it’s completed, you never think about it again. BUT you do focus your attention on the things left on the list, often moving them to the next day’s to-do list. It’s never ending!
I need you to stop doing that! Instead of try these tips:
- Celebrate the things you marked off. I mean really celebrate them. You did more than the average person. You accomplished a goal you set for yourself. Many will set a goal and never attempt to accomplish it. But you did!
- Reframe from adding the remaining items to a new list. Unless you just didn’t have time to do them, they probably weren’t as important as you though they were, or you would have prioritized them in the first place.
- Prioritize your list. When you create your to-do list, start with the things you know you NEED to do, then tackle the things you don’t want to do but need to do, then remove everything else! When those removed items become something you NEED to do, you will do them. Until then, they are only causing you stress and anxiety.
Being Bold and showing up in your boldness requires you to make intentional steps with your time, your energy and your mental capacity. You have been living life at warp speed and it’s catching up with you. It’s not about how much you get done but the quality of being able to enjoy what you are doing. Over the last couple of months, many of my clients have been struggling with anxiety and feelings of being overwhelmed. It’s not because their lives have become more hectic, it’s because they have been forced to slow down and they don’t know how to deal with the new pace of life.
You don’t have to be superwoman all the time. You can take your cape off without feeling as if you have done something wrong. You can take a moment to exhale and enjoy the fruit of your labor. We have been told, “You are only as good as your last accomplishment”. Well if you are not enjoying the things you have accomplished, what is the point in doing them?
For me 2023 is all about doing things that make me happy. It’s all about being intentional about what and who gets my time, energy and money. It’s all about things that make me feel good about me. It’s about things that excite me. It’s about things that remind me of how amazing I am. It’s all about things that allow me to show up in my own life as a BOSS. If you don’t take the time to celebrate who you are, don’t get mad when others don’t either.
Until Next Time,
