by Coach Tina | Jul 9, 2025 | Growth
(A Companion to the BossUp Podcast)
Ever caught yourself endlessly chasing your dreams, yet they always seem to be a step ahead? This relentless pursuit can be exhausting, and frankly, counterproductive. Here at BossUp, we believe in a different philosophy: WE DON’T CHASE! WE ATTRACT!
This core idea fueled our latest BossUp Podcast episode, “Three Mistakes that Keep You from Your Dreams.” If you’ve already tuned in, you know the powerful insights we shared about why your biggest aspirations might feel out of reach. If you haven’t, this post is your perfect entry point to a transformative concept.
The truth is, many of us are unknowingly making common mistakes that create resistance, preventing our boldest aspirations from flowing into our lives. Let’s take a moment to reflect on these crucial areas:
1. The Power of Crystal Clarity: Are You Sending Mixed Signals?
In the podcast, we dove deep into the critical importance of clarity. It’s more than just having a goal; it’s about seeing your dream with vivid detail, understanding its essence, and truly believing in its possibility. Without this sharp focus, your energy can scatter, and your actions might not align with what you truly desire.
Podcast Listener Pro-Tip: Revisit the episode’s discussion on clarity. What specific steps did we suggest for sharpening your vision? Jot them down and start applying them today!
2. Escaping the Comparison Trap: Embracing Your Unique Blueprint
It’s an epidemic in our digital age: constantly measuring our journey against others’ perceived highlight reels. In the episode, we broke down exactly “how comparison sabotages your unique path.” When you’re busy trying to mimic someone else’s success, you lose sight of your own authentic strengths, your innate timing, and the powerful path meant solely for you. It’s a quick way to drain your motivation and dim your unique light.
Podcast Listener Pro-Tip: Remember our actionable advice for disarming the comparison trap? How can you implement those strategies to celebrate your unique wins this week?
3. Liberating Your Future: The Crucial Act of Letting Go of the Past
Are old stories, past failures, or lingering doubts holding you captive? We explored “why letting go of the past is crucial for your future” in the episode. Imagine trying to run a race with heavy weights tied to your ankles – that’s what clinging to yesterday does to your progress. True attraction requires a clear, unburdened space for new possibilities to emerge.
Podcast Listener Pro-Tip: Which “old stories” resonated most with you during the discussion on letting go? Consider journaling about how you can consciously release them to create space for what’s next.
Ready to Deepen Your Understanding and Take Action?
Whether this blog post is your first introduction or a reflective companion, the insights shared in the BossUp Podcast episode are designed to shift your perspective and empower your journey. We unpack these mistakes with real-world examples and actionable strategies to help you stop chasing and truly start attracting the life and dreams you deserve.
If you haven’t listened yet, prepare for a powerful paradigm shift:
Tune In Now: “Three Mistakes that Keep You From Your Dreams” on Spotify!
Already a Listener? Use this blog post as a framework for deeper reflection. Dive back into specific points, jot down notes, and commit to implementing one new strategy this week.
My mission is to provide you with the clarity, confidence, and courage to build the life and business you’ve always dreamed of. If these topics resonate, and you’re ready to move beyond just chasing, I invite you to explore how we can work together to manifest your boldest aspirations.
Let’s stop chasing and start attracting. Your powerful path forward awaits!
by Coach Tina | Jan 13, 2025 | Empowerment, Gratitude, Growth, Healing
We’ve all heard the saying, “Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.” While it might seem like sound advice on the surface, I’m here to challenge that notion and offer a different perspective on how to truly protect your peace.
There is a cost associated with being too close to negativity!
The idea of keeping your enemies close, while it appears to offer a strategic advantage, and we are all about strategy around here; but it can have a significant impact on your emotional well-being. 
Those negative vibes your enemy releases can cause mental drain. Constantly engaging with negativity can drain your mental energy, leaving you feeling distracted, overwhelmed, and disconnected from your true purpose. It can also interrupt your focus. Instead of focusing on building your own success, you might find yourself preoccupied with monitoring the moves of your perceived enemies. Who has time for that?
I lean towards divine justice over forcing anything!
The scripture that states “God will prepare a table before your enemies” is often misinterpreted. This doesn’t imply you should actively seek out or maintain close relationships with those who oppose you. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. In my opinion this verse is a reminder that your success will unfold naturally, without the need to constantly engage with those who wish to see you fail. It also reminds me that God prepares the table – not us. And He prepares it in His timing! When we focus on God’s timing and his intentions, we allow success to unfold organically. You are not required to force anything.
It’s time to focus on positive surroundings!
Why expend precious energy nurturing negative bonds when you could be cultivating relationships that truly uplift you? Surrounding yourself with genuine supporters who celebrate your victories and encourage your dreams fosters a positive and empowering environment. The influence of supportive relationships fuels your growth and paves the way for authentic success.
Girlfriend, it’s time to reclaim your power!
In a world that often pressures us to conform and please everyone, it’s crucial to prioritize nurturing relationships that empower rather than those that drain. It’s time to release the toxic ties that you have to toxic people. This will require courage. If someone is constantly bringing negativity into your life, release them. You don’t owe them anything. Build your own empire. channel the energy you reclaim from letting go of those negative Nancys and pursue your dreams with unwavering confidence. As you reclaim your power, you will find that you really weren’t missing anything anyway.
Guarding your peace is an act of self-love and empowerment. By prioritizing positive relationships and releasing toxic ties, you create space for authentic success to bloom. Remember, you do not need to keep your enemies close to succeed. Trust in your own journey and let your light shine brightly. You are the CEO of your life. It’s okay to demote and terminate those that are not helping you achieve your goals and promote those that are.
I hope this encourages you to pursue success instead of paying attention to where your enemies are or what they are doing. That’s God’s problem not yours.
Until Next Time,
by Coach Tina | Feb 21, 2024 | Empowerment, Encouragement, Growth
In a world where women of color often feel marginalized and mentally unsafe in their professional environments, it’s time to acknowledge the resilience and creativity that they bring to the table. Despite facing adversity and burnout, women continue to excel in their careers while juggling multiple roles and responsibilities. Whether is leading a team of ambitious individuals, showing up as a loving spouse, helping navigate the lives of children, or building long-lasting friendships; women wear a lot of hats!
As a certified peer support specialist and master life coach, I’ve witnessed firsthand the struggles that many women face in their pursuit of professional success and personal fulfillment. It’s common for my clients to excel in their professions but lack confidence in their personal endeavors, using work as a coping mechanism for unfulfilled relationships or traumatic experiences. A recent article I read, reported over 40% of women that quit their job in 2023, quoted feeling mentally unsafe in their work environment and a feeling of burn out. 
But what if I told you that the burnout you’re experiencing isn’t solely from your overwhelming to-do list, but rather from the lack of fulfillment in your actions and their outcomes? Women are natural nurturers and multipliers, thriving when they can see tangible results and make a meaningful impact. Give a woman a house; she will build you a home. Give a woman a seed, she will produce a life. Give a woman an opportunity; she will build an empire. There is no stopping a determined woman. Unfortunately the same tenacity used to grow is the same energy that lead many women down the road of burn out and unfulfillment.
The key to overcoming burnout lies in aligning your actions with your desire for impact. When you feel energized and fulfilled in your leadership role, it’s because you can see the positive outcomes of your efforts. However, when your time feels wasted or your efforts go unrecognized, it’s easy to spiral into fatigue and depression, which are two of the most common symptoms of burn out.
Instead of resigning yourself to burnout, ask yourself if you’re truly making an impact in your current endeavors. If not, it’s time to pivot and find ways to create space for meaningful contributions. Whether it’s taking on a new project at work, starting a home improvement endeavor, or nurturing new friendships, prioritize actions that allow you to make a difference and nurture your desire to multiply and enhance what’s around you. You are not a tree, you are not obligated to stay planted anywhere you no longer want to be.
Remember, you are the CEO of your own life, with the power to demote, promote, or terminate anything that no longer serves you. I’m here to help you navigate the complexities of your professional and personal life, empowering you to lead with authenticity and live a strategically fulfilled lifestyle. Stop waiting to be invited to the table and build your own. Nothing is stopping you but you and your limiting beliefs. Every day offers a different opportunity, it’s up to you to position yourself to capitalize on it.
If you’re ready to break free from the cycle of burnout and reclaim your sense of purpose, I invite you to follow my blog and tune into the BossUP Podcast for ongoing support and guidance. Together, let’s unlock your potential and embrace the CEO mindset that will propel you toward success and fulfillment.
Until Next Time,
by Coach Tina | Dec 5, 2023 | Empowerment, Encouragement, Focus, Gratitude, Growth
Hey Girl Hey! It’s time to transform your life from chaotic to harmonious. Grab you a cup of coffee or wine depending on when you are reading this post and let’s dive into creating some morning and evening routines. These routines will help you conquer your day and become the ultimate CEO of your life.
Why Routines Matter:
In the grand symphony of life, routines are the maestros that orchestrate harmony. For Boss CEOs like you, a meticulously crafted routine is not just a to-do list; it’s a roadmap to success. It’s about mastering your day, reclaiming your time, and propelling yourself toward greatness.
CEO Mindset in Every Move:
Ever wondered why the most successful CEOs seem to have it all together? It’s not magic; it’s a mindset. Embrace the CEO within you, making intentional decisions, prioritizing tasks, and setting the tone for success. Your life is your business, and you’re the Boss – act like it!
Mindset is everything. If you believe you can, you will. If you believe you can’t, you won’t! Just that simple. The moment you say you cannot do something is the moment your mind begins to think of all the reasons why it cannot happen. But as soon as you get “permission”, you begin to look for ways to make sure it happens. Now is the time to give yourself permission. You don’t need anyone’s permission to live our life however you want to!
Mastering Your Morning:
I will be the first to say, establishing a morning routine was hard. Not because I’m not a morning person, but because prior to creating my routine, I would get distracted by all the “things” that needed my attention. It became overwhelming and I ended up doing NOTHING. So I changed that! Now I kickstart my morning by taking time for ME!
My day now starts with a purpose, which looks like this. I use the first hour of my morning to love myself. I start with a prayer asking God to help me be an example of Him today. I make my bed – assuring I accomplish at least one task for the day. I blast my music to set the tone for how I want my day to go. Right now, it’s Christmas music other days it may be gospel or even some upbeat hip hop. I’ve learned music fuels my soul and some days my soul needs a little Tamela Mann and other days it needs Tupac! I grab a cup of tea and journal about whatever I woke up with on my mind. Maybe it was a dream. Maybe it was a strategy I want to create. Maybe it’s a scripture or quote. I’ve learned to get that out first or it will distract me all day. The final step in my morning routine is to pull out my brain dump from the night before (you will see this in a moment). I look at the two things at the top of my list and create a visual image of those things being completed. I make a mental note of how I will feel once they are complete which sets my mindset and fuels my why. Now that I am aware of my purpose for the day, I turn my thoughts back to ME repeating one of two mantras Today, I am the CEO of my life. I will conquer it like the boss I am. OR I don’t beg, I don’t chase. I attract. What’s created for me will find me effortlessly. Determined to move forward with a BOSS mindset, I move forward with what I planned to accomplish for the day.
Empowered Evenings
Before I leave my office for the evening (I work from home), I take a deep breath, signifying the end of my day. It’s time to reset. It’s time to appreciate the things I accomplished for the day regardless of how big or how small. I’ve learned to be appreciative of the efforts I made because there was a time when I would have laid in my bed and cried all day. I ask myself a few questions: What did I learn today? What did I conquer today? What could I have done better? Then I make a conscious decision to do better tomorrow. This is the brain dump I talked about earlier. I ask myself the following questions: Was there anything I wish I had accomplished, and I didn’t? Were there things on my to do list that I didn’t even consider tackling? Do those things need to be removed from my list? Because clearly, they may not be as important as I thought they were! Then I write down two things I want to complete the next day. These are the items that I use to create a mindset of purpose the next morning. Remember the CEO mindset does not rest; it strategizes for tomorrow’s victories.
Lastly before I turn in for the night, I do a quick check in. I ask myself two simple questions: Did I make myself proud? Did I stay true to my purpose? If I answered yes to those questions, I’m good. If I say NO, I realize there is probably a boundary I need to set. Maybe it’s from within. Maybe it’s setting a boundary for someone or something that needs to be demoted or terminated from my life. I, then, pray and ask God to give me courage and strength to not only set that boundary but to implement that boundary.
CEOs are not afraid to set boundaries. It is not about being rigid; it’s about respecting your time and energy. Learn to say ‘No’ when needed, delegate like a pro, and protect the CEO asset- you!
Remember one of the pillars in the BossUP program is being strategic! Strategy is your secret weapon to conquering challenges and unlocking your full potential. This powerhouse program is designed for women like you – those making an impact in their community and in the lives of those they love. It’s not just a program; it’s your roadmap to CEO-level decision-making.
You’re not just navigating life; you’re orchestrating it. Through empowering routines, a CEO mindset, and the BossUp program, you’re claiming your place at the helm. Morning routines for women are essential in assuring an empowered life. Ending your day with an empowering evening routine creates space for you to thrive and step away from the chaos. Routines help to create a CEO life management system. Share the wisdom, subscribe for more BossUp insights, and remember – you’re the CEO of your life.
Until next time, keep BossingUp!
by Coach Tina | Aug 15, 2023 | Growth
Bob and Weave!! I can hear those words being yelled at me as my brother prepared me to stand up to the playground bully. He would throw punches and if they connected, he would yell, “Bob and Weave! Protect yourself at all costs. Never give anyone a clear jab at you. Make them work for it.” Then he would proceed to throw another punch. I got good. I soon was able to predict when the jabs were coming and was able to avoid contact.
Looking back, I realize that bully was a frail little boy, afraid of his own shadow and my fear allowed him to hide his insecurities. The things he used to torment me with, are the things women across America are paying for. My lips. My butt. My smarts. Only at the time I didn’t know they were assets; I saw them as liabilities that were used as ammunition from the enemy. For a moment I became a bully using my words to ward off the vicious attacks on the playground. As the bully was making his way to me, I would make sarcastic remarks about how he struggled with his schoolwork or how his clothes were dirty. Anything to keep him at bay and soon, he found another victim. I didn’t have to bob and weave anymore; I just needed to distract the opponent and make him work for it.
Soon that opponent became my own insecurities. Equipped with the lessons I’d learn from my brother and the playground bully, I learned to Bob and Weave avoid direct contact at all costs. Never allow them to get a clear jab at you. Make them work for it! So, when I would experience any type of pain, I would sweep it under the rug, put on my big girl panties and go into defense mode. I would act as though there was NO PAIN. I would do whatever was needed to bounce back from the sucker punch that connected and made me question who I was. This became normal practice. Soon it became the way of life, and I became stoic to anything that threatened to cause pain. It became something I would simply adjust to.
It wasn’t until a few years ago that I admitted I was a victim of my own defenses. I kept trying to figure out why I continually attracted toxic and abusive people into my life. Why I would dismiss those that didn’t mistreat me but hold tight to the ones that did. . Why I would settle for less than I deserve or desired. Why I would justify the behaviors of others but discredit or minimize my own successes.
To Bob and Weave is defined as a repeated attempt to avoid dealing with a problem. I would minimize my emotions or disappointments to avoid dealing with a problem or causing conflict. I would deflate or disassociate from the toxic behavior blaming myself for the misbehavior of others. I would isolate myself from anything that could appear too good to be true because I believed it would eventually cause some type of harm or pain. I would never give credit for my accomplishments because that would set me up for some type of failure later in life. I would highlight my own imperfections before someone else had a chance. I would only allow myself a moment to feel because anything longer could potentially cause a spiral in my emotions, and I would lose control. Yes, I am a control freak – even if control was gained by avoidance.
Trauma has a way of torturing you even through your healing process. I will never give into the trauma or its effects, but I have learned to give space to how I feel at the moment. As I navigate my own healing, I can see how childhood trauma set me up to accept traumatic episodes in my adult life. Now, I take the time to mother the little girl in me. I take time to check in with her and see what she needs at the moment. I try not to dismiss the feelings of hurt or disappointment. I try not to make her suffer again for her inability to bob and weave. I try not to become her bully or abuser. I try, which is all I can do at the moment. But the stronger I get the less I have to try. The stronger I get the more I can DO. No more bobbing and weaving. I’m facing things head on. I’m making a conscious decision to commit to my recovery, being patient with myself as I process the hurts and standing up to the bully even when it’s me.
As you go through your own self-discovery, it’s important to bring truth to the table and digest it. You cannot dismiss the mishaps that happened in your life and expect to be able to digest the things that are hard to swallow. You must chew them bit by bit and spit out the things that you no longer need. I will be the first to admit Bobbing and Weaving was part of my every day. Standing up to fear was and is difficult. But I know that some hits are necessary. They allow me to see how strong I am. They allow me to grow. They allow me to learn. They allow me to prepare. They allow me to stand firm in my own convictions. They allow me to set boundaries. They allow me to dismiss the things that no longer serve me. They allow me to be the person I am unapologetically. They allow me to be the BOSS – Bold, Optimistic, Strategic and Self- Reliant. They allow me to be the CEO of my own life. They allow me to demote, promote and terminate anything that no longer provides substance to my life. They allow me to be Tina – the woman for women.
Until Next Time,
