Ever wondered why some people are successful and others aren’t? First why are we so worried about what others do? Because we are HUMAN, don’t let no body fool you. We have those moments! However, if you focus on what others do for too long; you could become depressed by your own actions or you may become motivated by theirs!
I’ll take the motivation! I’ve lived a depressed life and it’s NO fun! I’d rather be motivated by what I see instead of depressed by what I don’t. It really is NO coincidence that successful people seek motivation in everything they do. It is, also, NO coincidence that successful people remove things from their lives that don’t motivate/move them. Marie Kondo is making a mint on that philosophy!
What motivates you? What keeps you focused on your goals? Where is your determination level? When you feel like you can’t or don’t want to move forward, what’s going on in your mind? What has your attention?
Here are some ways to help you stay focused and push through your desire to throw in the towel:
- Stop focusing on the past. Your past is just that; the past! Use it as a reference but never as an instruction manual! The instruction manual for your life is constantly being created. You will NEVER have all the answers. Everyday provides opportunities to make edits and improvements. Use them! If you don’t like the way it is, change it! If it didn’t work the way you wanted to work, learn from it and start again. Make the edit.
- Understand your priorities. There is a difference between priority and importance. The happiness of my kids is important to me. When they were younger, it was a priority. Now they are grown, their happiness must be their own priority. The marriage is a priority in comparison to friendships; but friendships are a priority in relation to materialistic items. But nothing is more of a priority than your own happiness and mental health. Read that again!
- Revisit your long-term goals. Setting goals helps you stay focused on the present and on what’s important. They help you prioritize and create momentum. They help you eliminate time wasters and establish routines. But you cannot make them and never revisit them. When you feel like giving up remember why you started in the first place. What goal were you pursuing? Is it still a goal? Is it a priority? Is it important? Or was it something that catered to the “old you”? True goals evolve and become more intentional but the essence of it remains the same.
Success does not happen overnight. It requires discipline and motivation. It requires you letting go of things that prohibit you from moving forward. Yes, even the things you love. If your desire is to lose 50 pounds, you may have to give up Aunt Mary’s famous apple cake and replace it with a baked apple with cinnamon. If your goal is to get the promotion, you may have to replace weekly nights out with the girls for studying ways to sharpen your skill sets.
The road to success can be lonely but when it’s a priority you will make it happen. Stay determined and watch your life change before your eyes. It’s time for you to be successful and happy.
Until Next Time,
