Everyone has a desire to be a better version of themselves. However, many of us are stuck in denial. We may miss opportunities in our lives to be better because we don’t want to admit there are areas where we are falling short.
Each week I send out a motivational email and a journal prompt to help us move closer to a better version of ourselves. You can add yourself to this email list by clicking here. These prompts are changing lives; starting with mine. Let me say, this week’s prompt had your girl doing some deep diving and self- reflection.
Here is this week’s prompt:
I need to change (blank) so, I can be the person I desire. I desire to be (blank). Seems simple enough right – yeah you work on it!!!
Can I be very transparent for a moment?
I have a mantra I say every morning: Today is a good day. I will walk in my purpose. My purpose is to encourage women to live their best life unapologetically, to let go of things they cannot control and create a life they love. This purpose begins with me.
You see, when I first started coaching, I was NOT living that purpose. Although I was on FIRE! I mean literally on fire! I was determined to FIX every “problem” that was brought my way. I wanted to MAKE everyone want what I wanted for them. I wanted them to see themselves the way I saw them. I wanted to “change” their life. I had a “solution” to every problem.
Can I tell you something else? I was exhausted, unfulfilled and burned out. I was frustrated. I was miserable. I couldn’t understand why my clients were only accomplishing surface goals and not getting the results “I wanted for them”. (catch that) I was jumping from this idea to that just trying to make something happen.
I can admit now, I was hiding my own pain by focusing on the pain of others. I was minimizing my own issues by bringing awareness to the issues of others. I was lying to myself thinking I was okay. When I was a hot azz mess! Those that know me, know I don’t sugar coat anything these days. I also don’t hide anything. When I fail, I fail. But I make it a point to learn from those failures and make it better for myself and the women that come to me having a similar issue.
Soon I realized it is NOT my job to fix problems. It was NOT my job to change anyone (well not by force anyway). It was NOT my job to convince anyone to do anything. MY job was to provide information and allow people to do what’s best for them. It IS my job to live an example of what it looks like on the other side. It IS my job to display my own happiness and watch others want something similar. It IS my job to help people get the results THEY want. It IS my job to be ME!
Back to the journal prompt… Here is part of my journal entry: I need to change the reluctancy to promote my business, my coaching and who I am. I need to stop downplaying my gifts and talents in fear of people seeing it as boasting. I need to provide strategic opportunities for individuals that desire to work with me on a deeper level. My desire is to continue to build women that are unapologetic, intentional and courageous. Women that are healthy, empowered and resourceful in every area of their life.
This prompt helped me to see I was playing safe. I was walking in purpose, but I was being extremely cautious. I was trying to provide safety to my own ego. You cannot build/create the life you desire being cautious. You cannot tear down walls being afraid. You cannot create a masterpiece focusing on the pieces of a broken frame.
Co-dependency is a beast! It will have you thinking the things you desire are impossible. BUT they’re NOT! It’s about living a life that you create. A life that makes you happy. A life that pushes you to be better today than were yesterday. A life that you can be proud of. A life that gives you hope. A life that make you excited about waking up.
One of the goals of my coaching business is to help women create a life they love so they no longer just tolerate life. This can be creating boundaries, letting go of toxic relationships, looking at themselves in the mirror and being honest with what they see, letting go of unrealistic expectations, creating multiple streams of income, walking in their purpose, finding their purpose or just learning to be happy in their own skin.
I hope this prompt gave you an opportunity to look within and do some self-discovery work. Maybe it helped you realized you have been cheating yourself as well. I would say “it’s okay” but it’s NOT! Before you can make any change in your life, you must be willing to identify a change needs to be made. I’m always here to help you should you need someone to bounce things off or create a plan of execution. That’s what I do as a coach- I push you. I encourage you. I challenge you. But more I support you. Let’s make the change you need so you can be the person you truly desire to be.
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Until Next Time,
