I’m an independent woman!
Did you look at that statement and get an attitude? Did your eye twitch a little? Did you immediately think “who does she think she is”? Most people will see a bold statement like that as arrogant, even cocky! But truth be told, if more women were “independent” the world would be a better place. 
An independent woman does not view herself better than anyone else, but she also does NOT see herself as beneath anyone else either. She looks within for satisfaction and validation. She makes decisions based on what she wants not what others want her to do. She does not wait for others to move forward on what she wants to do. She does not dim her light to make others shine, instead she shines brighter so others can as well. She allows others to make decisions that are best for them without allowing their decisions to cause her unnecessary stress or pain (she minds her business). She lives a life that makes her proud while remaining humble. She’s an example to others of what happiness looks like. She uses her past as learning blocks not obstacles. She’s not easily distracted by shiny objects. She counts the cost but does not allow the cost to count her out. She is motivated by her dreams not others. She enjoys her own company so she’s not afraid of being alone. She knows her worth and refuses to settle for less. She embraces her flaws while constantly working to better herself. She works in excellence not perfection. She’s not easily intimidated by those around her. She knows how to command respect without intimidation or manipulation. She walks away from anything or anyone that disrespects her. She is her own BOSS making executive decisions in every aspect of her life. She motivates others to live a full life by living her own. She is not selfish or self-absorbed, but she makes herself a priority every day.
She rids her life of clutter and confusion realizing excess is a result of a scarcity mindset. She realizes she needs others to fulfill her bigger than life dreams, but she refuses to allow them to limit her. She creates peace and harmony around herself so she can manifest the life she desires. She builds others because she knows what it feels like to be torn down. She refuses to entertain gossip or the belittling of other women. She never plays victim in any situation. She is a boss in all aspects. She hurts deep but rises stronger. She loves hard but gives it to those able to handle it. She takes care of her financial obligations. She realizes things do not mean happiness. She is never wasteful. She uses time to her advantage but is not consumed by it. She never walks away from a challenge. She stands up for herself making boundaries when necessary. She lets her YES be YES and her NO be NO! She is never indecisive because she moves with excellence not perfection. She does not chase attention. She does not beg for love or affection. She is a queen in every aspect.
Do I display every one of these qualities every day? NOPE! I still have moments where I am insecure, afraid and allow my past to block me from boldly conquering fears. BUT every day I move closer to what I view as an independent woman. Every day I make the declaration over myself that I AM AN INDEPENDENT WOMAN! Everyday I show up for myself. Everyday I love myself a little deeper. Every day I forgive myself for what I didn’t realize. Every day I demand the respect I desire by giving it to myself first.
What is your description of an independent woman? How does she present herself? Are there areas in your own life you need to focus on and declare YOU ARE AN INDEPENDENT WOMAN? I’d love to hear about them.
Until Next Time,
