Women are some of the most emotional beings on the planet. We were created like that and we have mastered it!
Men do not dwell on emotions. They feel it and move on. Children feel it and move on. But women, nah, we have to sit in it for a while. We feel the feeling. Then we process the feeling. Then we analyze the feeling (where did this come from) Then we name the feeling. We give blame to the feeling. We share the feeling. We attempt to validate the feeling by telling more people. Until the feeling is all we talk about!
Do you see how much energy has been exhausted because of a feeling? Feelings are fleeting! They come and go. They change with the wind. You can be happy today and sad tomorrow over of a memory or a comment.
Taking time to process your feelings are healthy but allowing them to dictate your entire mood is setting yourself up for mental fatigue.
Four steps to tame your feelings
1. Stop– what are you feeling? Give it a name. Anger is not enough. Maybe you are feeling unappreciated, overlooked, unheard, tired, lonely, hungry
2. Observe – is that assessment accurate? Were you really overlooked? Did you voice your concern and it was ignored? Or did you assume they should know! Did you have an expectation instead of an intention?
3. Analyze – what part of the situation is in your control. Unappreciated, speak up. Overlooked, speak up. Unheard, speak up. But remember you cannot speak up for yourself, if you don’t know what you want! So….
4. Reset/Readjust – wipe your face. Figure out what you want. Put a plan together to tackle the things that are in your control. Set boundaries for things that are not. And live your life! Move forward! Don’t dwell on things that you cannot do anything about.
Don’t allow the misinformed matters of life to hold you back from accomplishing your goals! You have too many things to do to get caught up in FEELINGS – NOTHING MORE THAN FEELINGS! Let’s grow 2022! Anything prior was a rehearsal for all the great things you are about to do!
Until Next Time,