No Pain, No Gain! Struggle is inevitable! Embrace the pain!
Okay, can we stop normalizing pain? Can we stop making it sound as if we must endure pain to be happy! Can we stop looking for something bad to happen because things are going well? Just stop!
At some point the rain does stop and the sun shines again. But how will you ever enjoy the sun if you are constantly waiting for the next storm? YOU CAN’T!
Let me tell you a hidden truth about me. I was that person. I could not enjoy the good things, the happy moments in my life because I had become so accustomed to the pain. I was constantly waiting for the next “bad” thing to happen. I even got to the point where I would not allow myself to be happy because I felt it would make the bad thing happen faster. WELL, WELL, WELL! What I was doing was setting myself up for failure.
Because remember what you feed is what grows. I was expecting things to go wrong so I began to self-sabotage and look for wrong things. Sometimes I even made things appear bad just to prove myself right. WTH!!
Then one day while strolling the internet, I came across this amazing quote. Changed my whole life!
A man (woman) who fears suffering is already suffering from what he fears! Michel de Montaigne
Honey!!! It was the beginning of the beginning for me. I begin to think about all the things I was afraid of and realized I was suffering because of my fears. I was not living my dreams because I was afraid, they would not happen. I was withholding love because I was afraid I it would not be returned. I was rejecting love because I was afraid of being rejected. WTH!!! The things I feared was causing me to suffer. I was so afra
id of being happy that I was dying in misery. I was so afraid of what people would think of me that I was ultimately living a life that I hated.
Here is your brick!
If you walk around avoiding pain, you will find it. You will see it everywhere you walk. Not because it’s there but because you fear it will be. It’s time to push past your fears and live unapologetically without regret. We will all have moments where things hurt. Pain is inevitable but misery is an option! I know me and these darn quotes. But why re-invent the wheel?
If you cut your finger, do you cut your arm off? HECK NO! You put a bandage on your finger and go on about your day. Then why, because one person mishandled you, do you live your life expecting someone else to hurt you? Why do you punish yourself for something someone else did? Why did you stop applying for jobs because you didn’t get the last one? It’s time to get out of your own way. It’s time to live and stop waiting to die.
Where are you allowing pain to run your life? What do you want to accomplish, yet are allowing your past to hold you back? It’s time! Now is the time to do it! What do you have to lose? I guarantee this… you will never accomplish it, if you don’t at least try.
Until Next Time,
