The words that came from your mouth set a fire inside of me. My first response was to lash back and demand that you see me. To demand that you hear me. To stand up for myself. To let you know it would not be tolerated. But soon I realized my words fell on deaf ears and regardless of what I said you were not going to hear it because you were caught up in your own feelings and mine really didn’t matter.

When a people lash out at you, don’t take it personal.  They are coming from a place of need. The need to be heard, the need to be loved, the need to be accepted.  If you are able to offer any of this, do so.  If not, pray and ask God to help you be able to do so.dont-take-it-personal

Growing up I was not one to fight, but I would use my words to combat and bring tears to those that hurt me. I was full of anger and anyone in my path could be subjected to it.  As I grew into my adolescent years, the anger subsided and gave way to pain.  I began looking to people to take the pain away.  I believed that if I loved enough, gave enough of myself then in return I would get the same thing back and the pain would go away.

Well that didn’t happen, what I eventually learned was I had to love myself and then I could offer love from a place of abundance instead of a place of lack.  When you find yourself unable to offer unconditional love, you need to find out why.  The Bible gives a command to “love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” (Matthew 5:44) and then it gives a promise if you do this “you may be children of your Father in heaven (Matthew 5:45).

I’m not saying in order to get to heaven you have to be subjected to abuse or mistreated but what I take these verses to say is, in order to have a chance of entering the pearly gates, you have to forgive those that mistreat you, love them and pray for them.

It’s hard to hate someone you pray for. It’s hard not to forgive someone you pray for. It’s hard to not love someone you pray for.  Give it a try.  Has someone mistreated you and you wanted to lash out at them or maybe you even did lash out at them? Stop what you are doing and pray for them.  Not the vengeful pray that many are accustom to (God get them). NO!! Pray that God gives them the desires of their heart. Pray if anything is lacking in their heart, that it is fulfilled. Pray for their soul. Pray that God will use you to be a pray warrior for them.

You don’t have to be in the presence of a person to pray for them.  All you have to do is be in a right relationship with God so He can hear the prayer you offer on their behalf.  Now remember…. You can only truly offer love from an abundance. If you know there are things in you that aren’t right towards this person, ask God to clean you up first and then pray for them.

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