Are you happy? I mean genuinely happy. What does happy look like to you? What does happy feel like? Does being happy require assistance from someone or something? Can you be happy all by yourself?

I know so many questions but I’m just curious.  We all say we want to be happy but no one can explain what “happy” is. People have a hard time explaining what it looks like or even what it feels like.  We are quick to have millions of thoughts about what it is not but no one can put into words “WHAT IT IS”.

Some would say happy is smiling.  Some would say happy is having money. Some would say happy is being around people you love or that love you. Some would say happyare you happy is laughing. Some may even say it’s knowing that everything is going to be okay. But what is happy to you?

I have to admit something… this was a trick question! My definition of happy and your definition of happy can and probably will be two completely different things.  There may be things in life that may contribute to my happiness that could make you angry. For example, I don’t care for crowds. They tend to drain my energy.  I find myself much happier when I am sitting quietly reading a book. But there are people who sitting in a quiet room would be torturous for them.

My whole point is your definition of happy is your definition no one else’s.   What makes you feel happy can only be determined by you.  So many times we look at what others are doing and think “if I could do that then I would be happy”.  If my relationship was like that – I’d be happy.  If that was my job – I’d be happy. If I lived there – I’d be happy.  Stop doing that!!!! Because you really don’t know if that person is happy or not (looks can be deceiving).

Remember everything you need to find your happy place can be found inside of you.  If you don’t get anything else out of this post – understand NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY.  There is NO outside force that can make you happy – so please stop fooling yourself.  Happiness comes from within. Your happiness can only be felt by you. Yes, other may be able to contribute to your happiness. They may even be able to see the results of your happiness but they will never be able to feel your happiness.

I found these quotes and wanted to share them with you –

Happiness is something that you are and it comes from the way you think. Wayne Dyer

Happiness is not a station you arrive at, but a manner of traveling. Margaret Lee Runbeck

Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony. Mahatma Gandhi

Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting some on yourself. James Van Der Zee

Stop looking for others to bring you happiness. They don’t have the power to do it. Stop expecting your happiness to look like someone else’s. It never will. Stop expecting things to make you happy. They never will. Instead share a bit of happiness with others and watch it explode inside of you.

But we still have to ask what is HAPPY? Happy is the excitement that wakes you up in the morning and the satisfaction that rocks you to sleep at night. Happy is the feeling of contentment that you are living a “no regrets life”. Happy is a life time of sweet aroma that passes by ever-so-often. Happy is what gives you the strength to go a little further. Happy is the sunshine after the rain. Happy is whatever you make it and whatever feels good to you. Your happy was created just for you and can only be enjoyed by you.

 

Until Next Time,

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